Hi Steph, my name Jose Antonio from Spain, my age 45. First to say to you that you are great, one of my heroes. I want to climb, i love climbing but i am afraid of a possible fall. How could i avoid the terror to fall?
Dear Jose,
Thanks for writing to me!
I’m not sure how long you have been climbing. But I think it’s familiar to most climbers, being held back by the fear of falling. I’ve noticed that there are generally two approaches to fear (whether in climbing or any sport)–some people need to get all psyched up and just “GO FOR IT (dude)!”. This gets them out the door, and is one way to overcome nerves. For others, just going for it is the opposite of their approach….they prefer to take things bit by bit and work up to the thing that has been intimidating them.
I have tried both. My personal experience, and also my observation of watching others doing it, is that the first approach is generally counterproductive for best performance. Either it’s too scary, and it just scares you more. Or else you “just go for it” and you do things in a sloppy, adrenaline-blurred fashion. It gets done, but it does not get done well. This can be counterproductive too, because bad habits can start to get built in with even just one poorly executed effort, and the frustration of poor performance can also be bad. However, it’s undeniable that the first approach does at least get you out the door, which some people may feel they have to do to even do anything at all. If you are motivated, and you are determined to eventually get out the door somehow, I believe that using the second approach is more enjoyable, safer and yields better results, actually more efficiently in the long run. It may appear slower to do things incrementally, however I have seen for myself that you will actually get better results in a shorter time period this way.
When you are being ruled by fear, take a small first step towards dealing with it, whatever that step might be. The most basic climbing example would be that you are afraid of taking a lead fall. So you get on a sport climb, and you climb a few bolts up, and when there is a quickdraw at your nose, you let go. That’s not a lead fall, but it’s a fall with the bolt at your face. Now you will get back on and climb til the quickdraw is at your chest and let go. And just keep doing this until you have fallen with the draw below your waist, below your feet, etc. Your belayer is also going through this with you, and is getting more and more familiar with catching you–and both of you are gradually getting more familiar with the sequence of this together.
With anything, the more you practice it, and the more you become used to it, the less scary it is. If you just practice the thing you are having a problem with, very gradually, you will definitely get better at it, because that’s just how things work. The important thing is to avoid terrifying yourself, instead, break apart the process so that you can do small, slightly scary things, and you will finally find yourself doing the thing you were afraid of, and doing it well through this focused, gradual practice.
Steph