Hi Steph,
Thanks for being so accessible with your book, blog, and vimeo channel. Your lifestyle is pretty rad, especially because it’s so clear that your reason for pushing your limits is the personal centering of your mind and body, and of course fulfillment and happiness, and not any of the notoriety that you’ve received as a result of your achievements. I’d like to assume that’s why most climbers do it, but I haven’t read their books or blogs if they exist, so I can’t generalize to that end.
Society does a pretty good job of impressing upon individuals the idea that their success can only be measured by the name of the institution they graduated from, the level of their degree, the size of their salary, their job title and purchasing power. It was very refreshing to read that you rejected all of that in pursuit of something much more gratifying: doing what you love everyday.
I’m in the process of obtaining one of those degrees so that I can hopefully one day positively affect the lives of high school students by encouraging them to, without fear, structure their futures in the same way you did, around their happiness. Of course, I won’t trick them into thinking that going against the grain doesn’t come with hardships. As you mentioned, sometimes you faced doubts about the lifestyle you had chosen, which is expected, but I’ll share stories like yours (and yours will definitely be one of them) to classrooms of students to show them that the fears they’ll be facing by rejecting society’s pressures and illusions of the definition of success are normal and that they have to push beyond them if they want to be completely satisfied with themselves and their lives.
I love how you talk so matter-of-factly and humbly about these crazy experiences that you, and those you climb with, experience. Like those climbs you did in Patagonia or Pakistan. And the climbing community seems really tight and very helpful. I was in tears of laughter when I read about and imagined Dean and Timmy using Beth’s tandem bike to complete their link-up and also Timmy’s supportive/hilarious words on the way down El Cap. I was also in tears of happiness when Cybele told you to “Get mad!” so you could stick the final crux section of the Salathe Wall after finding that crumbled foothold, and of course when you completed the climb of El Cap with Beth. The environment you live your life in just seems very enriching and is one of the principle attractions I found in climbing (I just started this past week).
I also was attracted by climbing’s combination of mental and physical. Fortunately, my muscular strength and endurance are there from other sports, but i’ll have to work up that finger strength. What you discovered about yourself on your most difficult climbs, and also the in-touch feelings with nature you received on any climb, have become something that I want to experience. So hopefully i’ll be out there in the Valley or Patagonia someday. I would say a few years, but I don’t want to put an artificial time constraint on my progress. It could be sooner, could be later.
But ya, thanks for doing what you do, keep being you. I hope it (climbing, wingsuiting, basejumping, veganism etc) continues to bring you happiness and fulfillment. Just felt compelled to tell you some of what came to mind. Have a great 2011!
–Brendan
Dear Brendan,
What a great way to start 2011, as a new rock climber!
Thanks for your heartfelt letter. I love these conversations about lifestyle, choices and future goals.
I think you will be a great teacher, and wish you lots of luck on that path.
Happy New Year!
Steph